Here’s what BNI Founder, Dr. Ivan Misner
recommends.
Most of us have been in a situation where
someone has asked for a favour before having the social capital to make that level
of request. To amass financial capital, you invest and grow your assets. Social
capital works the same way. You have to invest before you can withdraw. If you
can answer “Yes” to most of the following points about a person, you are in a
pretty good position to ask a favour of them.
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Do you trust the person to do a great job and to take great care
of your referrals?
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Have you known the person for at least a year?
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Do you feel comfortable explaining at least 3 of their major
products or services to others?
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Do you know the names of the person’s family members? Have you
met them?
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Have you asked each other “How can I help you with your
business?”
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Do you know their goals for the year, including personal goals?
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Would you be able to call them at night if you needed to?
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Would you be comfortable asking for help with either a personal
or business challenge?
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Do you enjoy the time you spend together?
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Do you have a regular appointment scheduled?
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Do you enjoy seeing them achieve success?
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Are they top of mind for you? Do you think about them
frequently?
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Can you have open, honest talks with them about your overlapping
areas of interest?
If you haven’t answered “Yes” to most of those
questions, you’re not yet ready to ask for a favour. If you can’t yet answer
“yes” to those questions, you need to invest more in that relationship.